Tuesday, July 21, 2009


For the past six months to a year I have been grappling with some serious decisions regarding my Dad and his home, my childhood home.

You see Dad is on a fixed income and can no longer afford to keep his house. My brother and his family have lived in the basement apartment of the home for the past 8 years. The original purpose of them living with Dad was to help him financially, emotionally and with the upkeep on the house after my Mom passed away suddenly. Sadly this has not been the reality of the situation. The help has flowed in the opposite direction. It has been a difficult road as Dad has felt like he has been responsible for raising another family. Neither of us have had the courage to tell my brother and his family to leave the residence. In retrospect I wish I had had been able to be more forthright in my approach as I dealt with this situation. Sadly it has come to the point that we do have to sell the home. Right now we are thinking that it will have to be an investor that comes in and purchases the home. A lot of work will be needed to bring the home up to par, however the land that the home is on is worth the work.

There are panoramic ocean views

views from the deck

as well as access to a private beach.

beach access

Dad' beach

It is situated in a lovely ocean side community. I only wish I had the funds to purchase and fix up the home myself although that would open up another can of worms with my brother. The situation is so frustrating and I find myself procrastinating and creating other jobs for myself rather than attending to the sale of the home. I guess deep down in my heart of hearts I just don't want to sell that home. It's the home in which I grew up and where my Mom died. It is where my father planned to be buried from. I have so much anger pent up inside me toward my brother and sil. Why couldn't they have done the right thing all these years???? How can anyone think they can live for nothing and take such advantage of an elderly parent. I'm sure you can sense my angst. I guess I just need to move forward with my decision. I'm praying for the strength to do what needs to be done.


Anonymous said...

oh my goodness, barbara. what an awful situation. i am so sorry! i wish you could keep the house, so rich with memories. and what a spot. wow. it looks like it's near where i am right now, in southern rhode island. sending peace.

Barbara said...

Thanks Kyra. It has been very difficult. We now how the house up on a variety of For Sale By Owner sites. It will be the end of an era when the home sells.

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